[cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 52px 0px 0px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_card animation=”flip-from-top” center_vertically=”true” front_style=”border-width: 4px 4px 4px 4px; border-style: solid; border-color: #db5842; color: #ffffff; background-color: #4293db;” front_image=”http://allc.asia/wp-content/uploads/Forgiveness.jpg” front_image_width=”200px” front_title=”FORGIVENESS” front_text=”Choosing to free others from the ‘debt’ they may owe you for a wrong they committed against you and to not feel resentment toward them. ” back_style=”border-width: 4px 4px 4px 4px; border-style: solid; border-color: #4293db; color: #ffffff; background-color: #db5842;” back_title=”DETAILED DESCRIPTION” back_text=”It is impossible to live on this fallen planet without getting hurt, offended, misunderstood, lied to, and rejected. The word “forgive” means to wipe the slate clean, to pardon, to cancel a debt. It is important to remember that forgiveness is not granted because a person deserves to be forgiven.” back_button_text=” ” back_button_link=”http:///#x-section-2″ back_button_color=”#ffffff” back_button_bg_color=”#db5842″ padding=”10% 10% 10% 10%”][x_blockquote cite=”Mark 11:25″ type=”center” style=”border:none;”]And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.[/x_blockquote][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: px; padding: 15px 0px 55px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column class=”miniH4″ style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text “]Skilled Characteristics[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_feature_list animation_offset=”50″ animation_delay_initial=”0″ animation_delay_between=”300″][x_feature_box title=”Aware” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn” style=”font-size: 1.2″]Is aware of one’s own sinfulness and need for forgiveness[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Humble” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Sees oneself as an imperfect person who is also in need of forgiveness[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Empathy” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Can put oneself in the shoes of the other person and try to understand what they are thinking and feeling[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Gratefulness” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Is grateful for God’s forgiveness of oneself[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Prayerful” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Seeks God’s heart and help to forgive others – prays for those who have wronged them[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Releases” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Is willing to release others from their hurtful actions and choose to forgive them[/x_feature_box][/x_feature_list][x_custom_headline level=”h4″ looks_like=”h5″ accent=”false” class=”center-text ” style=”color:#001123″]”For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.”

– Matthew 6:14[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 15px 0px 55px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column class=”miniH4″ style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text “]Unskilled Characteristics[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_feature_list animation_offset=”50″ animation_delay_initial=”0″ animation_delay_between=”300″][x_feature_box title=”Avoids” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”hexagon” graphic_color=”” graphic_bg_color=”#db5842″ align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Tries to avoid certain people[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Blames” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”hexagon” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#db5842″ align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Frequently blames a person or says negative things about them[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Dislike” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”hexagon” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#db5842″ align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Holds a strong dislike (or even a hatred) for someone[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Re-Tells” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”hexagon” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#db5842″ align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Frequently brings up a negative situation from the past where someone did something wrong[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Can’t Rejoice” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”hexagon” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#db5842″ align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Can not share in rejoicing with someone even when something wonderful happens to them[/x_feature_box][/x_feature_list][x_custom_headline level=”h4″ looks_like=”h5″ accent=”false” class=”center-text ” style=”color:#001123″]”Until we have seen someone’s darkness, we don’t really know who they are. Until we have forgiven someone’s darkness, we don’t really know what love is.”

– Marianne Williamson[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 15px 0px 55px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column class=”miniH4″ style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text “]Causes of Weakness[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_feature_list animation_offset=”50″ animation_delay_initial=”0″ animation_delay_between=”300″][x_feature_box title=”Needs Forgiveness” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”square” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#43c6db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”fadeInLeft” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Has a strong feeling that one needs forgiveness of oneself and can’t forgive others until one has received that forgiveness[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Lacks Empathy” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”square” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#43c6db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”fadeInLeft” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Has a hard time understanding the other person, putting oneself in his/her shoes, or seeing him/her as a regular person[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Needs Time” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”square” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#43c6db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”fadeInLeft” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Needs more time before one is willing and able to totally forgive someone else[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Need for Payback” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”square” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#43c6db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”fadeInLeft” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Incorrectly believes that the person first must pay for their sin before they can be forgiven[/x_feature_box][/x_feature_list][x_custom_headline level=”h3″ looks_like=”h5″ accent=”false” class=”center-text ” style=”color:#001123″]”Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.”

– Roberto Assagioli[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 70px 0px 0px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text man” style=”font-size: 2.5em;”]Advice[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”30px”][cs_text style=”margin: 0.5em 0 2em; font-size: 1.5em;” text_align=”none”]Review the simple application steps below and choose 1 or 2 things you can do to spur yourself on to further growth.[/cs_text][x_feature_list animation_offset=”50″ animation_delay_initial=”0″ animation_delay_between=”300″ class=”noH4″][x_feature_box title=” Name It” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]NAME IT: Write down the name of the person you have chosen to forgive. Then write down what you need to forgive them for. Also write down some of the things that you have done in your life that has needed forgiveness. This will help you to show mercy to the other person.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Give it to God” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]GIVE IT TO GOD: Remember that forgiving someone is a mental, emotional and spiritual exercise. In fact, it is impossible to truly forgive others without God’s help. God has forgiven billions of people, and He can help you to forgive, as well. Admit your need for God in these situations and ask for His help.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Grasp the Extent” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]GRASP THE EXTENT: It is important that you have recognized the full scope and impact of what another person has done to you in order to fully forgive. You may need to seek the assistance of a pastor, counselor, or other trusted professional or friend to help you to fully understand what happened to you when you were hurt and why it hurts so much.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Surrender” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]SURRENDER: You must get to a place where you are ready and willing to surrender to God what the other person has done to you. You must be able to let go of your desire to get even with the person. Pray to God and surrender your rights to get even, and release that person and the situation into God’s hands.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Have Compassion” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]HAVE COMPASSION: Choose to have compassion on the other person. Remember that they are suffering, too. Pray for them and ask God to bless them.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Move On” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]MOVE ON: Allow yourself to move on with life without thoughts about this person or situation holding you captive. If you need to go through this process again, then do so. That is normal, as forgiveness is often a process that takes time.[/x_feature_box][/x_feature_list][x_gap size=”50px”][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 85px 0px 55px; ” bg_color=”#ffffff”][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto 30px; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text man”]Resources[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”30px”][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″][x_accordion][x_accordion_item title=”Books ” open=”false”]

 

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