[cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 52px 0px 0px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_card animation=”flip-from-top” center_vertically=”true” front_style=”border-width: 4px 4px 4px 4px; border-style: solid; border-color: #db5842; color: #ffffff; background-color: #4293db;” front_image=”http://allc.asia/wp-content/uploads/Self-Control.jpg” front_image_width=”200px” front_title=”SELF CONTROL” front_text=”The abiilty to control ones emotions, physical actions, and spoken or written words, especially in difficult or stressful situations.” back_style=”border-width: 4px 4px 4px 4px; border-style: solid; border-color: #4293db; color: #ffffff; background-color: #db5842;” back_title=”DETAILED DESCRIPTION” back_text=”The very concept of “self-control” implies a battle between a divided self. It implies that our “self” produces desires we should not satisfy but instead control. Jesus says we should deny ourselves, take up our cross daily, and follow him (Luke 9:23). Every day our “self” produces desires that should be denied or controlled.” back_button_text=” ” back_button_link=”http:///#x-section-2″ back_button_color=”#ffffff” back_button_bg_color=”#db5842″ padding=”10% 10% 10% 10%”][x_blockquote cite=”2 Timothy 1:7″ type=”center” style=”border:none;”]For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.[/x_blockquote][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: px; padding: 15px 0px 55px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column class=”miniH4″ style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text “]Skilled Characteristics[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_feature_list animation_offset=”50″ animation_delay_initial=”0″ animation_delay_between=”300″][x_feature_box title=”Thinks” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn” style=”font-size: 1.2″]Thinks before one speaks or acts[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Control” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Keeps control of one’s temper and behaviors – stays calm under pressure[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Good Choices” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Makes rational and healthy decisions, even in difficult or high-presure situations[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Follows-Through” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Follows through on one’s promises and commitments, despite boredom or disliking the work[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Real” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”circle” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_border=”border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px; border-style: solid; border-color: #43c6db;” graphic_icon=”user-plus” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Behaves appropriately, even when no one is looking[/x_feature_box][/x_feature_list][x_custom_headline level=”h4″ looks_like=”h5″ accent=”false” class=”center-text ” style=”color:#001123″]”Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.”

– Unknown[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 15px 0px 55px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column class=”miniH4″ style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text “]Unskilled Characteristics[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_feature_list animation_offset=”50″ animation_delay_initial=”0″ animation_delay_between=”300″][x_feature_box title=”Impulsive” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”hexagon” graphic_color=”” graphic_bg_color=”#db5842″ align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Reacts quickly to situations without thinking[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Gratification” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”hexagon” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#db5842″ align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Prioritizes short-term gratification over long-term benefits[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Lacks Willpower” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”hexagon” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#db5842″ align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Allows feelings or desires to control one’s actions[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Addict” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”hexagon” graphic_color=”#ffffff” graphic_bg_color=”#db5842″ align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”flipInX” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Is prone to addictions[/x_feature_box][/x_feature_list][x_custom_headline level=”h4″ looks_like=”h5″ accent=”false” class=”center-text ” style=”color:#001123″]”What it lies in our power to do, it lies in our power NOT to do.”

– Aristotle[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 15px 0px 55px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column class=”miniH4″ style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text “]Causes of Weakness[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_feature_list animation_offset=”50″ animation_delay_initial=”0″ animation_delay_between=”300″][x_feature_box title=”Sleep” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”square” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#43c6db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”fadeInLeft” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Lack of sleep affects our ability to make rational decisions[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Diet” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”square” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#43c6db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”fadeInLeft” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Hunger or not eating a well-balanced diet can reduce our brain’s abiity to process information logically and respond rationally[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Triggers” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”square” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#43c6db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”fadeInLeft” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Things in one’s environment that triggers or reminds oneself to take an unwanted action [/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Selfishness” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”square” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#43c6db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”fadeInLeft” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Caring more about the present moment than the future[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Loss of Hope” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”square” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#43c6db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”user-times” graphic_animation=”fadeInLeft” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]Hopeless feelings about one’s future or about one’s value, worth or ability[/x_feature_box][/x_feature_list][x_custom_headline level=”h3″ looks_like=”h5″ accent=”false” class=”center-text ” style=”color:#001123″]”The difference between want and need is self-control.”

– Unknown[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”50px”][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 70px 0px 0px; “][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text man” style=”font-size: 2.5em;”]Advice[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”30px”][cs_text style=”margin: 0.5em 0 2em; font-size: 1.5em;” text_align=”none”]Review the simple application steps below and choose 1 or 2 things you can do to spur yourself on to further growth.[/cs_text][x_feature_list animation_offset=”50″ animation_delay_initial=”0″ animation_delay_between=”300″ class=”noH4″][x_feature_box title=” Reflect” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]REFLECT: Think about the areas of your life where you struggle with self-control. The first step in overcoming a problem is to identify the problem and name it. Acknowledge those areas of difficulty in your life and ask your closest friends or spouse to help to hold you accountable for improving in those areas.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Set Goals” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]SET GOALS: Set realistic goals for yourself. Set daily goals, weekly goals, monthly goals, yearly goals, and beyond. Write those goals down and review them every day to help guide you in making right choices that are in alignment with your priorities.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Reward Yourself” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]REWARD YOURSELF: Give yourself a reward or a treat every time you are successful in overcoming situations where you commonly struggle with self-control.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Face Feelings” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]FACE FEELINGS: Deal with your emotions that are leading you to lose your self-control. What are your triggers? Why do they trigger you? Talk to a trusted friend or counselor who can help you to overcome your anger or addiction issues.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Exercise and Diet” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]EXERCISE AND DIET: Make sure you are getting sufficient sleep and exercise. Both sleep and exercise help to reduce stress levels. If you’re feeling stressed, try taking a break and getting a short bit of exercise, even if it’s just a walk around the block.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Think Big” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]THINK BIG: When you are close to losing your self-control, try to think about the bigger picture, the end goals, and the light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes getting away from the tiny details of the moment and seeing the bigger picture can reduce frustration or temptation.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Practice” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]PRACTICE: Self control problems often relate to bad habits we have formed. The simplest way to get better at something is to practice, practice, practice. The more often you do the RIGHT thing, the more likely you will make that right thing a habit.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=” Distractions” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]DISTRACTIONS: Find things to distract you from the areas in your life where you lack self-control.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Remove” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]REMOVE: Remove things from your life that cause you to stumble into bad habits and demonstrate poor self-control.[/x_feature_box][x_feature_box title=”Fear” title_color=”” text_color=”” graphic=”icon” graphic_size=”45px” graphic_shape=”badge” graphic_color=”#db5842″ graphic_bg_color=”#4293db” align_h=”left” align_v=”top” side_graphic_spacing=”20px” max_width=”none” child=”true” connector_width=”1px” connector_style=”dashed” connector_color=”#272727″ graphic_icon=”check” graphic_animation=”fadeInDown” connector_animation=”fadeIn”]FEAR: Think about the worst-case scenario of your poor self-control and use that as a motivation to stop. Keep reminding yourself.[/x_feature_box][/x_feature_list][x_gap size=”50px”][x_line][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section style=”margin: 0px; padding: 85px 0px 55px; ” bg_color=”#ffffff”][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto 30px; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][x_custom_headline level=”h2″ looks_like=”h3″ accent=”false” class=”center-text man”]Resources[/x_custom_headline][x_gap size=”30px”][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” inner_container=”true”][cs_column style=”padding: 0px; ” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″][x_accordion][x_accordion_item title=”Books ” open=”false”]

 

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